Today, I happened upon my wedding pictures as I was cleaning out the video drawer (ever my nemesis...way too many videos). It's only been a year and a half since we were married but these pictures haven't seen the light of day since our 1st wedding anniversary.
I thought it would be fun to share with you ten things to think about if you, your best friend, family member co-worker, neighbor, or whom ever you may know, are going to be planning a wedding. Now, I understand there are going to be some you absolutely LOVE and others you might think....what was she thinking? I'm good with that! Either way, I hope you find some inspiration here!
My Top Ten Things to Think About When Planning a Wedding
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Your wedding from start to finish should totally reflect who the two of your are as a couple.
There are so many things that can be done, as long as you don't get stuck in the rut of thinking you have to do it the way its always been done.
1. Not your first go round? 2nd, 3rd or heck even 4th marriages don't mean you have to stand in front of the Justice of the Peace (no, there is nothing wrong with that) just be sure to have the ceremony that reflects your personalities and desires. We were going to elope. My sons came to us and said that it wasn't every day kids get to see their mom get married. They asked if they could be IN the wedding. Elopement went on its way, alone and we started planning a wedding.
2. Children can be more than flower girls or ring bearers. If you or your future spouse have younger children or know children and you think they can handle it, let them be bridesmaids or groomsmen. I couldn't imagine my 10 year old as a ring bearer. My then future husband solved that problem by asking both of my sons to be a groomsman, along with his own son. The kids did an amazing job and stood right up there with the best man and the groom!! It was adorable! Don't be afraid to allow children to step into roles that are not typically traditional.
3. Instead of individual gifts for the bridal party, why not create a memory they will never forget. Rent an entire bed and breakfast and have everyone stay together the night before the big day. We allowed for the spouses of our bridal party to stay as well (although they had to abide by the girls and guys separation rule..tee hee hee). Guys stay in a set of rooms, girls in another set...no peaking before the wedding (if you chose that sort of thing). This makes it easy for the photographer to snap those 'getting ready' photos because everyone is in the same place, not to mention, most BnB's are B-E-A-U-tiful and make for fab photo backdrops!
4. Don't be afraid to be goofy and have fun! Some of the best photos happen when people are having fun. Posed photos are great but its the candid moments that make lasting memories. Some of our shots simply blew us away. They were real. They were funny. They made us laugh. They are memories that can still be recalled easily because they happened in real time and our photographer did a great job of capturing them. Be sure to let you photographer know you want these types of moments captured.
5. Trying to keep things on a budget? Instead of serving a sit down dinner or expensive meal, try an h'ordeuvres buffet instead. Serve hot and cold h'ordeuvres and everyone is sure to find something they will eat! You will have to be careful though, because as we learned, it is very easy to get carried away with thinking that you will need more. Honestly, you won't. Trust your caterer or a feeding a crowd guide about how much you will need. We found this method to be very cost effective.
My Top Ten Things to Think About When Planning a Wedding
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6. There are no hard and fast rules about what can or cannot be in the ceremony, other than needing to exchange rings and repeat some vows, oh and perhaps having a legal clergy. This part of the wedding can be uniquely you as much as any other part of the wedding. Simply talk with your clergy and let them know what you are thinking. Does your significant other do impressions? Why not allow him/her to use those voices? My hubby does tons of impressions and I wanted them to be a part because they made me laugh. So, our pastor used the hub's impressions as a method to ask if anyone objected to the union. Thank goodness, The Hulk, Rocky Balboa, and Austin Powers all agreed we should be married! The point is, the ceremony can be as much fun as the reception!
7. Karaoke is hot! Do you and your honey love to go sing? Well, why not have Karaoke at your reception? Don't be shy! Your guests will follow suit if you and your new spouse set the stage! This one was sort of a no-brainer for us because my hubby is a KJ (that's Karaoke and DJ combined for those who may not know). Turns out having love songs sang to you, the newly wed couple, can be quite romantic and absolutely hilarious at times! We even had an 8 year old girl sing for us...the pictures are priceless!! So step on out of your comfort zone and sing your hearts out!!
8. It's okay to do your wedding your way. Everybody has ideas and opinions, but in the end the only ideas and opinions that matter are YOURS!! Mom wants to light the candles (but we aren't even having candles), auntie wants you to throw the garter (am I even going to wear a garter?), Suzy Q thinks you shouldn't wear white (wearing white has nothing to do with how pure you are...seriously, it doesn't, look it up, History of Wedding Dresses). While being polite, let everyone know that you appreciate their input but that in the end, it is your wedding and the two of you will be making the final decisions and that not all ideas or opinions will be used!
9. Your bridal party is very important! Why not let them off the hook at the reception, at least a little. Create a couples table for you and your new spouse and allow your wedding party to sit with their family, spouses, or date. They will thank you for it! This idea benefits everyone involved. The wedding party gets to be with their families, the families get to feel like a part of the activities, and you, the happy couple can sit and get some (I said some because EVERYONE wants to wish you well) alone time together, maybe feed each other or just make goo goo eyes at each other!!
10. At the end of the day it doesn't really matter if everything went off without a hitch or whether the photographer missed some shots....all that matters is, you are beginning a journey with the person you love! Don't fret the small stuff! There will be plenty to think about when the honeymoons over!! <wink, wink>