Not every love story is a happy, sappy start. You know the ones.
The ones that actually start with Once upon a time....it was love at first site ...he/she knew right away they had met THE one...and all that jazz.
Nope, not every story starts that way.
Ours certainly didn't.
I had been divorced for almost eight years and had decided I was meant to be alone for the rest of my life.
Scotty had been divorced for a little over two years and was finally putting his life back together.
Then, we met!
No sparks! No fireworks! No love loss between the two of us!
Nope! We didn't even like each other!
When we first met, Scotty thought I was an overbearing diva and I thought he was, well, an arrogant, annoying (insert a not so nice name here).
As we look back to our first meeting, we can laugh, now. We definitely were not a love at first site kind of couple!
Scotty and I met when he was guest DJ-ing for a friend of mine, who owned a laundry business as well as a DJ company. It just so happened, my friend also happened to be Scotty's new boss on both jobs.
It had been suggested, by his new boss and my friend, that Scotty should give me a call because I knew a lot of the karaoke DJ's in the area and could go with him to let him get a feel for what other DJ's were doing.
You know, sort of a field-trip so
he could learn a bit more about being a DJ.
When Scotty asked for my number, I hesitated, thought he was hitting on me, hesitated some more, but eventually relented and gave him my number, agreeing to visit other DJ's with him.
Two weeks passed and I sighed a collective sigh of relief. I was relieved he decided against doing this visiting with me.
Wrong! He called late one evening after those two weeks and folks....nothing could have shocked either one of us more!
We talked for hours!
Nope! We didn't even like each other!
When we first met, Scotty thought I was an overbearing diva and I thought he was, well, an arrogant, annoying (insert a not so nice name here).
As we look back to our first meeting, we can laugh, now. We definitely were not a love at first site kind of couple!
Scotty and I met when he was guest DJ-ing for a friend of mine, who owned a laundry business as well as a DJ company. It just so happened, my friend also happened to be Scotty's new boss on both jobs.
It had been suggested, by his new boss and my friend, that Scotty should give me a call because I knew a lot of the karaoke DJ's in the area and could go with him to let him get a feel for what other DJ's were doing.
You know, sort of a field-trip so
he could learn a bit more about being a DJ.
When Scotty asked for my number, I hesitated, thought he was hitting on me, hesitated some more, but eventually relented and gave him my number, agreeing to visit other DJ's with him.
Two weeks passed and I sighed a collective sigh of relief. I was relieved he decided against doing this visiting with me.
Wrong! He called late one evening after those two weeks and folks....nothing could have shocked either one of us more!
We talked for hours!
We blended two families where none of the children live with us full time. This creates a unique challenge in and of itself. Life is full of highs and lows, smooth parts and rough parts. Together we get through it all.
We have hurt each other, failed each other and not always been the best for each other, but through it all, we have loved each other.
It's not been perfect, nor has it been pretty at times, but that's how life is sometimes and marriage is no different.
Marriage can be messy. The key to our success is to simply keep working, keep striving, keep loving, and absolutely keep looking to God! There are no other options.
We have hurt each other, failed each other and not always been the best for each other, but through it all, we have loved each other.
It's not been perfect, nor has it been pretty at times, but that's how life is sometimes and marriage is no different.
Marriage can be messy. The key to our success is to simply keep working, keep striving, keep loving, and absolutely keep looking to God! There are no other options.
Our journey has just started and we are still learning how to be married, but we're up for the journey.
Through our marriage, we hope others will gain a perspective of hope and understanding! Sharing how we 'do' marriage is about us 'getting it' as much as it is about sharing it with others. It's about divorce not being an option, ever!
Been there, got the t-shirt, never want to see the inside of a divorce court ever again. Marriage is work! Sometimes its beautiful, sometimes it ugly, but either way, working at it is ALWAYS worth it.
When a light burns out, you don't run out and get a new house...you fix the light bulb! Well, when marriage is broken you don't go get a new spouse, you fix the problems with the one you already have.
When marriage is good, its great, but when marriage is not so good, as a society, we tend to just give up and take, what we believe to be the easy road out (albeit the expensive road sometimes). We just give up and the big D comes into play. Essentially, we buy a new house just because a light bulb blew out! That's crazy!
Having been through divorces, we say, the big D is NEVER an option.
Everything can be worked out. Everything!
Through our marriage, we hope others will gain a perspective of hope and understanding! Sharing how we 'do' marriage is about us 'getting it' as much as it is about sharing it with others. It's about divorce not being an option, ever!
Been there, got the t-shirt, never want to see the inside of a divorce court ever again. Marriage is work! Sometimes its beautiful, sometimes it ugly, but either way, working at it is ALWAYS worth it.
When a light burns out, you don't run out and get a new house...you fix the light bulb! Well, when marriage is broken you don't go get a new spouse, you fix the problems with the one you already have.
When marriage is good, its great, but when marriage is not so good, as a society, we tend to just give up and take, what we believe to be the easy road out (albeit the expensive road sometimes). We just give up and the big D comes into play. Essentially, we buy a new house just because a light bulb blew out! That's crazy!
Having been through divorces, we say, the big D is NEVER an option.
Everything can be worked out. Everything!
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