When I first heard him use it, we had only been dating a short while and it was a head cocking, eyebrow raising moment for me (you know the look that says, huh?! YEP, that's the look). At that time, I thought it sounded a bit harsh and judgmental.
I'd like to share it with you, this phrase he uses, and then clue you in as to why I no longer believe it to be so terrible but a great lesson I could use a little help with.
Without further delay, the phrase:
"Where people put their asses is what and who they value"
(Mr. Right) Yep! You can highlight and share Mr. Right's saying on Twitter! Go ahead... See if you can't! Just highlight it and tweet away!
I know right?! That's what I thought too!! Sounds a bit harsh doesn't it!
Unlike you, I've had several years of hearing this phrase used in different situations and at different times.
Just chew on a minute. Let it sink in.
I now believe it to be a true and accurate depiction of the human race.
But Why, you ask?
I'll get to that in a moment just bear with me.
Why No One Comes to the Party
Ever had a party and only one or two people show up?
Yep! We've all been there, very frustrating! Buying all those finger food makings, cleaning until our fingers bleed, finding just the right background music.... So much work! For WHAT!!?? No one to show up, that's what! Those ungrateful, self-centered.....
What!? Oh, sorry, <feeling a little sheepish> Uh Hum! Guess that pulled up a few bad memories. <clearing throat, a little embarrassed>
I have to tell you everyone of those folks, the ones who showed and the ones who didn't, told you exactly what they value.
Those who said they would come and didn't or those folks who just never replied, told you without saying a word, what their value was.
It may have been they didn't value the reason for the party, it could have been they simply don't value parties, it could've been that they don't value you, but whatever it was, they showed you their value.
I hate it when Mr. Right is right!! <said with a devilish grin>
Humans are Selfish Whether They Mean to Be or Not
We run into people after years of not seeing them and as we part ways again we politely say,
"We should get together, SOON! I've missed seeing you!"
But do we? Rarely. Oh, there are those occasions when it happens, but for the most part, it's simply being polite. We just have so many other things that take priority, but we feel we need to show the other person some sort of importance. Right?
Here's what I'm learning from Mr. Right's phrase:
Seven hard truths about humans that I'm beginning to believe to be true
1) Mr. Rights' phrase mimics God's word which tells us the same thing in Luke 12:34
(For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also)
2) People make time for what's truly important to them and you may not be that important
3) People say things to simply be polite, not always because they mean them
4) People are only going to value what they want to value.
5) People are only going to be where they want to be.
6) People are only going to do what they value.
7) People only make time for what they want to make time for.
IF I had to sum it up in one sentence of my own
(Certainly can't go around mimicking Mr. Right! Right? ☺)
People make time for what's important to them and they make time for what they truly value; Everything else is just unimportant!
Learning to Walk (and blog) by Faith,